“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988)
Second piece of mind-blowing material for the day is an email from my counselor which was a response to my saying I feel depressed when I'm alone.
I think that, given time, you will embrace being alone. While I love people, I really look forward to my private time. The whole concept of needing to be with people all the time is a Hollywood myth. Especially when it comes to romance, you have seen the difference between what Hollywood sells and reality. See if you can convert some of your alone time from feeling needy to feeling empowered. Spend some time meditating, and see if it begins to liberate you.
The depressed state is what the Chinese call "excess yin". It slows down everything, including the physical metabolism. When that happens, you stop being active, stop burning energy and start gaining weight, which is even more depressing, which starts the cycle over again. You want to infuse a little "yang" into your life! Do you have a bicycle? or do you like to walk? A good idea is to bike or walk for about a half hour every day. Perhaps you can bike or walk to the store (or other close errands) rather than drive. If you can get out in the sunshine for a few minutes a day, that would be great. You could convert your lunchtime at work to a walk time perhaps.
We tend to evaluate ourselves by either what we do or what we have. But we are "human beings", not "human doings" or "human havings". Now is the time to go within and really discover who you are - when you do, you'll see that you are a wonderful, pure, kind, saintly being. Eventually what you do and what you have will just be a natural "side effect" of who you are.
MMM.... rich stuff. Tops my day off with whipped cream and a strawberry. (yes, strawberry. Eww on the marachino cherries!)